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Im in need of advice. Ive basically caught feelings for my FWB and im not sure if i want a relationship but i definitely dont want it to end.
Help I started college in august and since then i have aquired somewhat of a “situationship” (first post ever im in the ground)
Me (18F) and this guy (19M) never talk about our relationship were very compatible outside of hooking up, we do group hangouts, study sessions, movie nights, and go to parties together. Im feeling conflicted because we haven’t discussed our dozens of hookups outside of hooking up? He seems like he likes me alot and we enjoy eachothers company but im just curious what hes thinking…. The curiosity isnt super uncomfortable, and Im pretty insecure so im feeling like even though all the signs say he likes me.. i havent heard him say it, so i dont know what to think. He doesnt really keep it a secret in groups but, we havent gone on dates, and ive never asked him “what are we” and im not even sure i want to know the answer to that question . I like him alot and i think there could be something long term here but its been 6 months and were both in tough spots to be starting relationships What can i do? Do i just need to chill out?
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The best thing to do is to have a conversation. Communication, regardless of whether it’s fwb, a situationship, or a full-blown relationship, is one of the most important parts of maintaining any of those things. If neither of you are used to it, it might be pretty awkward to have this conversation but it’s definitely one to be had considering you don’t seem to know what you want or what this even is.
First, have a conversation with yourself. Ask yourself if you like where things are at, if there’s a chance you’d want more, or if you’re afraid of rejection if you do. Ask yourself all kinds of questions and answer as best as you can. That way, you’ll have a better idea of what to talk about with your friend, as well as set up any kinds of boundaries or ground rules if that becomes a necessity.
No you don’t have to chill out! You have every RIGHT to feel the way you do. The times you guys been spending created a connection between you two. You feel it and want more than what you guys are. It’s very normal for you to develop feelings after having hook up multiple times and movie night study sessions that hang out. Anyone would start to develop feelings. So it’s okay breathe 🫶🏼
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Talk to him! Be straightforward! Tell him how u feel? Try to understand where his heart and head are at.
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Wait it out a bit. Be more patience with your situation. Try to see if you can see signs of him actually liking you back.
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Just stop giving him attention. See if he looks for you and is the one taking charge of the situation. Try to be more dry and distant, maybe he will feel your absence.
Advice
You can’t read minds and other people can’t read yours. You could ruin your relationship telling him how u feel or he could feel the same for you in return. You will honestly never know till you do something. If you don’t that’s okay 👍🏽 It’s your decision but overall don’t feel guilty or bad on how you feel! It’s your feeling’s and emotions that you yourself feel. Just remember it’s okay to feel the way you do. Your emotions are valid 🫶🏼