First of all, I went back and forth about the NSFW tag. This is nothing explicit, but, it does discuss sexuality in a married relationship.
In December of last year, my wife (62F) and I (60M) read an article where it said that the average number of times that a married couple has sex is 50-53 times of year. Basically, once per week. We were both struck by how low this number was. Even at our lowest spots with the kids running around, we made sure to schedule at least twice a week, plus whatever came up organically. The closeness was just something that we needed.
We decided to keep track of the number of days that we had sex throughout the year. We counted today and barring a quickie tomorrow before NYE celebration, we had sexual relations on 216 days this year. The parameters that we decided on are not just PIV sex, we also count times such as she deciding to get frisky and giving me a blow job, mutual masturbation, me pleasuring her with hand, mouth, or toys to bring her to orgasm to start her day. We have no problem with being woken up by the other initiating sex, I know that this is a line that some do not like. This is not a count of the total number of times, just the number of days. Days with multiple encounters still just count as one.
I will admit that the last 10 years things have really picked up. With no kids at home and no real financial struggles, stress levels are low. We can also use any room in the house whenever we want to. Life is great with the person that you love, who loves you back, and is not afraid to unleash her wild side. When I was in my early 20s, I never thought that I would have it this good.
To my wife: I love you so much, my honey.