I (27M) have been seeing this gentleman (27M) since September. We are a fundamental mismatch and this would be my first time breaking up with somebody.
My previous relationships have just fallen apart and there was no clean break resulting in major turmoil on my end both men and women. I fully intend on not speaking to him anymore anyways.
We have seen each other every week since then other than the last two weeks. We are not connect sexually or emotionally. I require an emotional connection . I have tried to gently and even through direct discussion to address the sexual aspects of my also wanting a sexual partner to show they want sex. He expressed on the first date that he never compliments his partners and that has contributed to killing my desire for being with him (thought I could go without it but I am wrong, lesson learnt).
About 3 weeks back on a weekend we were supposed to spend together, he was upset by something (3 months into our relationship). I tried to provide encouragement to share when he was ready but he did not share anything with me directly. Only a couple days after he posted something on Instagram about his upset and having felt betrayed by people with regards to work opportunities. He is closed off emotionally. I am also maintaining warmth and pacing of our conversations. We still talk everyday but his responses are becoming shorter and he is not curious anymore, even with my querying if he is okay he just says he is tired.
The relationship has also been very one sided where a lot of the execution and "inconveniences" of said dates have fallen on my shoulders.
He said he does not do phone calls which I am okay with but I have seen him call his friends couple of times, so there is another thing.
I wanted to send a breakup text with the following but I am not certain whether a phonecall would be better:
"I’ve been reflecting over the past couple of weeks, and I don’t feel the emotional depth or progression I’m looking for is developing. I don’t think we’re a long-term fit, so I think it’s best we stop seeing each other. I know text is less than ideal for this, but I wanted to be clear. I wish you well. All the best in your romantic endeavors"
He is a good person but I definitely feel like a placeholder of some kind.
TLDR: Boyfriend is a fundamental mismatch with me and despite my efforts to connect we are not progressing. What is the best way to breakup?