I’m not talking blunt rudeness or simply being an asshole. I have a friend who’s direct when necessary. He’s pretty much an open book. At the same time, he often plays devil’s advocate to keep the peace in certain situations (even if he doesn’t admit it out loud).
He’s very chill, often the sweetest person in the room, and won’t hesitate to defend others in the circle if need be.
That being said, I’ve noticed (from both personal experience and observation) he won’t always be direct with certain people. I sort of get it: it depends on the circumstances at hand. A few weeks back, I was unexpectedly kicked from a mutual friend group. When the heat died down, he and I were catching up and playing a game. I told him, privately, “If there’s ever a point in the future where you and I can’t be friends anymore, I want you to tell me. Please don’t treat me like glass.”
He agreed, and told me: “Though I don’t really see that happening.” (Referring to the potential situation of us not being friends anymore.)
I can’t tell if I’m overthinking the possibility that he’s not being truthful/direct – or if he truly was being direct in that moment.
So yeah…. Why can the most direct people fail to be direct sometimes?
edit: I didn’t mean to “rant” about a specific person – I was using a too-detailed example. Apologies.