Hello,
So I have been with this girl for 5 months now and the last month have been long-distance, as she was with her family for the holidays. We are exclusive and i honestly feel like i trust her in this regard. However, i feel like i have been asking her for more attention while being ignored, and I opened up to her and told her a couple of times that "to feel like a priority and to know that you prioritise our relationship is something very important for me", and she would agree and tell me that I am a priority for her. But recently, mainly the past few days, I have been feeling like the guy who she talks with whenever and if she is free. She told me that her family and friends are the most important thing for her, and she has been pretty busy with them as she will be traveling back to my city soon. I totally respect that and I told her how much I support this and think it is very healthy to not make the other person in a relationship the whole world. But at the same time, i also prioritise my family and friends, and yet i always make sure i make time for us even when i am at my busiest. That's been really bothering me as I feel like that every day and i honestly feel like i am putting much more effort than she is into this. I really love everything else about this girl, she is so the person i feel (even though it is very early) that i want to be with aside from seeming difference in priorities and communication style. We text almost everynight with updates but we rarely call since she is always busy (something that bothers me, but i make sure everytime we call, i tell her how much i appreciate her making the time for us so that she knows that i am not taking things for granted and appreciate the effort) and she texts me on her own sometimes which reassures me that she cares, but i keep telling myself when we go hours without a reply that she's busy now but at this point, i am starting to question if my feelings are even valid. I have a job and have friends and yet always make her my priority and always is there for her within minutes. I like to treat people how i like to be treated and especially someone i care a lot about. She also told me that "she needs her own time away from everyone" which i am totally fine with btw but i hate being the guy who gets ghosted all day as i wait for our very short talk at night which sometimes ends up being "hey, just got back, i'm tired and about to sleep, good night". I do not know how else to make myself clear honestly, like I need to know that I am priority to her, but if i tell her, she tells me that I already am, but i sure dont feel like it most of the times.
What also bothers me a bit is that I really dislike when someone says "i'll text you after" or "i'll reply to your message soon" and suddenly ignores our previous conversation and proceeds as if i did not say anything. And unfortunately, she does this thing where she asks me my opinion about a topic where i tell her in depth my view and then ask for her opinion, but suddenly she disappears halfway our convo and comes back and says she will reply soon, but ends up ignoring all my messages. Or i ask her to let me know when she is home safe and i end up hearing from her like hours after she gets home almost everytime, while when she asks me the first thing that crosses my mind when i get home is to let her know that all is good, and that takes 2 seconds. I am not sure what to make of this situation as she admitted she is a bad texter and i can tell, but it is bothering me. When are together, i also know she checks her phone even though she does not reply to most people, but i would like to think i am not most people.
What can i tell her in this situation as i do not want to lose her? I am sure this will not be our last time long-distance as both of us will be traveling a lot. I really appreciate your input on this one.
Thank you so much!