How do you feel about clubbing without your partner?
January 6, 2026
Assuming both are into nightlife.
29 comments
Fine? He doesn’t really drink/party so it makes sense to go with friends sometimes
I love having a girls night out…. Without him…. It’s fun….
I don’t really care. We’re not into clubbing at all but if he would decide to go now I would have no problem. My only ask/wish would be that I exchange phone numbers with a person he’s out with in case something happens and I can’t reach him or if something happens to him and someone can reach out to me. And ofc that the car stays where it is if he plans on drinking. Zero tolerance for drunk driving
More comfortable 😂
with my girls i have a blast but i’m past that point in my life now (going out all weekend, every weekend)
I feel fine about it. He was never the clubbing type so I’d just go with friends.
super fun either way! but I love when hes there to dance with me
early/mid 20s, i loved it! now i’m 28 and would rather be curled up with him watching a movie or playing video games together. alcohol is just *not it* anymore
40 year old woman and I still go clubbing with and without my fiancé. If he’s not into the DJ for the event, I’ll just bring a friend (guy or girl doesn’t matter). He trusts me and wants me to have my fun.
Honestly I wouldn’t want to go without him. I really love spending time with him. If I go out with women, I generally go to dinner and then home because I want to be with him.
I wouldn’t go clubbing anymore, but back in the day it was always about a girls night out. It wasn’t as fun when our partners were there… not because we were looking for men… it just disrupted the girl time.
It became a boundary in our relationship. We are mid-30s. I do expect he trusts me and deals with his trust issues appropriately (ex cheated) but all monogamous couples have different boundaries. I was really drunk last time I decided to go out dancing. No big deal to me, I ignore men and tell them I have a bf whether it’s true or not as I just want to dance alone. Seeing how much it hurt him, I decided to not do that again. I think if my partner wants his mid-30s gf to not be out drinking alone that’s valid. Now if I make girl friends who want to go out, we might revisit this boundary, but that still depends on the context. Is it a sexualized atmosphere, are my friends single, is it a friendship building event or an escapism event?
If you were born in 98… eh you’re approaching the age to age out of clubs but also, if you’re enjoying the final years of your 20s, don’t let anyone take that from you. I spent that period of my life dancing at gay clubs and having my queer awakening which was vital to me. I was also struggling personally and drinking a lot.
Motives, context, history, company all matter here.
I’m only 22 but I’m traumatized by men so I dislike getting drunk in that environment without him
My bf would rather stay home and watch movies so if I’m going out its usually for girls night but that only happens maybe once a month. On the odd blue moon when he goes out with his friends I’m fine with it, its good for couples to still have time apart to hang out with their friends. We still mostly go together if there is something happening though.
I’d rather go with him. I don’t have a friend group who likes clubbing anyway. I’d have to be in the mood to go though. Typically it’s not my thing but it depends. We had a blast when we visited a club for a DJ set a few months ago!
Yes, please! He can come, too, if he’d like. 🙂 He can drive me home.
I absolutely despise clubs. I would never be with someone who gos to them.
With or without him are fun but I like mostly going home to him after the club
All for it. He has things he likes and I have things I like (leaving the house isn’t one of them but if it were…lol)
Depends on who I’m hitting with the club. She likes a good fight and would join in.
It’s not our thing
I’m 41, I’m a mom of 2 kids, my husband I have been together 10 years, married for 7 of those
And I love it 🤣
I go to Vegas for a girls weekend a couple times a year
I love dancing, my husband hates it. He’s not into crowds, late nights, rich foods, etc. So I go and enjoy those things w my girl friends and have a break a couple times a year, I get to dressed up and we hit the town. I save the more low key, slower paced vacations to be spent w him and the kids.
Going to the club as a married woman is liberating, I don’t have to care if there’s hot dudes at the club.s now. Though I’m a chatty person, I talk to men or women or whoever is nearby. But I’m loyal to my husband, if a man buys me a drink I tell them I’m married.
I always tell my husband about the hilarious stories that come out of the trip. He’s always exhausted by the kids when I get back and has a newfound appreciation for all I do here. Win win!
It’s fun to come home to ur partner n go out without them lol
I dont love the idea, but thats why I married a homebody! Dont date people you’d want to change later on 🙂
I rarely ever went clubbing on my own or with my own friends… I generally only go with my SO and highly prefer it.
I do it sometimes but then I start to miss him halfway through
I don’t go clubbing unless I’m feeling tht way not my thing
I never went to a club. Neither had a girls night. My bf would leave me if I told him I wanted to do that.
29 comments
Fine? He doesn’t really drink/party so it makes sense to go with friends sometimes
I love having a girls night out…. Without him…. It’s fun….
I don’t really care. We’re not into clubbing at all but if he would decide to go now I would have no problem. My only ask/wish would be that I exchange phone numbers with a person he’s out with in case something happens and I can’t reach him or if something happens to him and someone can reach out to me. And ofc that the car stays where it is if he plans on drinking. Zero tolerance for drunk driving
More comfortable 😂
with my girls i have a blast but i’m past that point in my life now (going out all weekend, every weekend)
I feel fine about it. He was never the clubbing type so I’d just go with friends.
super fun either way! but I love when hes there to dance with me
early/mid 20s, i loved it! now i’m 28 and would rather be curled up with him watching a movie or playing video games together. alcohol is just *not it* anymore
40 year old woman and I still go clubbing with and without my fiancé. If he’s not into the DJ for the event, I’ll just bring a friend (guy or girl doesn’t matter). He trusts me and wants me to have my fun.
Honestly I wouldn’t want to go without him. I really love spending time with him. If I go out with women, I generally go to dinner and then home because I want to be with him.
I wouldn’t go clubbing anymore, but back in the day it was always about a girls night out. It wasn’t as fun when our partners were there… not because we were looking for men… it just disrupted the girl time.
It became a boundary in our relationship. We are mid-30s. I do expect he trusts me and deals with his trust issues appropriately (ex cheated) but all monogamous couples have different boundaries. I was really drunk last time I decided to go out dancing. No big deal to me, I ignore men and tell them I have a bf whether it’s true or not as I just want to dance alone. Seeing how much it hurt him, I decided to not do that again. I think if my partner wants his mid-30s gf to not be out drinking alone that’s valid. Now if I make girl friends who want to go out, we might revisit this boundary, but that still depends on the context. Is it a sexualized atmosphere, are my friends single, is it a friendship building event or an escapism event?
If you were born in 98… eh you’re approaching the age to age out of clubs but also, if you’re enjoying the final years of your 20s, don’t let anyone take that from you. I spent that period of my life dancing at gay clubs and having my queer awakening which was vital to me. I was also struggling personally and drinking a lot.
Motives, context, history, company all matter here.
I’m only 22 but I’m traumatized by men so I dislike getting drunk in that environment without him
My bf would rather stay home and watch movies so if I’m going out its usually for girls night but that only happens maybe once a month. On the odd blue moon when he goes out with his friends I’m fine with it, its good for couples to still have time apart to hang out with their friends. We still mostly go together if there is something happening though.
I’d rather go with him. I don’t have a friend group who likes clubbing anyway. I’d have to be in the mood to go though. Typically it’s not my thing but it depends. We had a blast when we visited a club for a DJ set a few months ago!
Yes, please! He can come, too, if he’d like. 🙂 He can drive me home.
I absolutely despise clubs. I would never be with someone who gos to them.
With or without him are fun but I like mostly going home to him after the club
All for it. He has things he likes and I have things I like (leaving the house isn’t one of them but if it were…lol)
Depends on who I’m hitting with the club. She likes a good fight and would join in.
It’s not our thing
I’m 41, I’m a mom of 2 kids, my husband I have been together 10 years, married for 7 of those
And I love it 🤣
I go to Vegas for a girls weekend a couple times a year
I love dancing, my husband hates it. He’s not into crowds, late nights, rich foods, etc. So I go and enjoy those things w my girl friends and have a break a couple times a year, I get to dressed up and we hit the town. I save the more low key, slower paced vacations to be spent w him and the kids.
Going to the club as a married woman is liberating, I don’t have to care if there’s hot dudes at the club.s now. Though I’m a chatty person, I talk to men or women or whoever is nearby. But I’m loyal to my husband, if a man buys me a drink I tell them I’m married.
I always tell my husband about the hilarious stories that come out of the trip. He’s always exhausted by the kids when I get back and has a newfound appreciation for all I do here. Win win!
It’s fun to come home to ur partner n go out without them lol
I dont love the idea, but thats why I married a homebody! Dont date people you’d want to change later on 🙂
I rarely ever went clubbing on my own or with my own friends… I generally only go with my SO and highly prefer it.
I do it sometimes but then I start to miss him halfway through
I don’t go clubbing unless I’m feeling tht way not my thing
I never went to a club. Neither had a girls night. My bf would leave me if I told him I wanted to do that.
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