His latest complaint is I can't take correction from him. That he can't say anything to me without me "thinking he's mad". Well, he says everything in a hostile tone. It's never a calm "hey, let's discuss this issue" kind of way. So yeah, I think he's mad. And then will say I'm arguing if I try to say anything or explain myself because ultimately I'm wrong. ( I'm being serious, like he will say I packed too much stuff and if I explain what's in the suitcases – I'm arguing because I'm not seeing the "common sense" of the facts he saying…. like for example….I let our daughter bring something she absolutely didn't need or a tote bag in addition to a suitcase….so why am I spending time explaining what was in the luggage…that's arguing when I should just be saying okay because he's right…that was indeed too much stuff).
I said you don't need to be so hostile about it. He says he's not ….it's just that I (OP) can't handle any correction. Then subtilty said he isn't being volatile because be can get volatile. 🙄🙄 And that's "it's common sense what's he's saying" so why am I still arguing. And it's my fault because I let her lack all of this stuff and "I need to stop letting my kid be a prima donna and extra and if she can't pack lighter then her butt can just stay home!!!!!" I really hate how he uses the term butt in conversations. Like "if you can't be ready on time – your butt can stay home!!" Or "get your butt off of the couch and clean your room".