I noticed whenever my female friend makes a joke or when she wants to make a decision she always looks to the guy in the friend group for validation/confirmation. I don't know if this is pick me behaviour or not but she seems to also ignore suggestions I make.
For example, she asked a question and I answered it. She glanced and me and glanced back at the guy. I was not sure if she heard me so I highkey YELLED it 3 times (i have a quiet voice so I started doing this to make sure people actually hear me and are not ignoring me) but she only took the answer from the guy.
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apparently "pick me" is an inaccurate/offensive term. I just think this behaviour is weird and I don't really know how else to describe it but it reminds me of pick me behaviour (classified as always looking for male validation/putting women down for it). Although I think its unreasonable to make assumptions about myself based on just this.
I really want to understand other people's perception of this. I am neurodivergent and I find it hard to interpret social situations sometimes. but also because of this I feel like sometimes I am too paranoid OR I convince myself im too paranoid and actually ignore things that are important. maybe I posted this to the wrong sub but idk where else to post this
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OK ALSO I kinda didn't want to clarify this cuz i thought it might make me seem like controlling or sum but the guy is my bf. but this isnt a single incident, i think it was just more apparent because I decided to like repeat myself instead of like staying quiet when I am not heard/ignored and was still not met with an answer