Good morning!
I have a few questions that I'm somewhat embarrassed to ask because they may be common knowledge for 95% of people.
First off, I'm a 36 year old man, I have been with my wife since I was 16, she was my first girlfriend and the only woman I've had sex with. We will be finalizing a divorce soon and I'm excited to expand my horizons.
I am, I think, good in bed, but having zero experience outside of my wife, I just dont know the "rules" of sex with new people. I like giving oral(V AND A) I like spanking during doggy, thumb "in" sometimes, ect. Not any crazy stuff, but I just dont know if that sort of stuff is ok with newer partners or if you kind of build up those things gradually.
I'm assuming people will say "you have to ask if those things are ok with them" but is it really normal to ask? When do I ask? During?
I'm nervous I will do something wrong or weird and just dont want a woman to feel uncomfortable or like I took advantage of them or something.
Also, again….have never really done this so maybe its a dumb question, but I'm REALLY worried I will get a wrong impression and do something without consent. What is consent? Like do I have to ask out loud "are you ok with me touching you?" Do you want me to kiss you" "do you want me to eat you"?
I feel intimidated, honestly. Ill be going from basically always knowing what is ok with my wife of 20 years and her boundaries to having no idea how to get to first base without making a woman feel uncomfortable.
Am I overthinking? I feel like I'm going to need to learn an entirely new language on the fly.