My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years, married for 1 year. He has always been a goofball and jokester, which is part of the reason I fell in love with him in the first place. Recently though, it's felt like his behavior has changed and his jokes are about me, not with me.
To preface: I'm going through a stressful time with 2 elderly parents, one who is super sick. I'm naturally a more sensitive person, and it doesn't help that I'm more on edge right now. I've discussed this with my husband and have literally begged him for months now to stop joking as much, because his jokes are usually aimed at me and recently it's made me irrationally angry. Sometimes he'll concede and apologize, but other times he gets defensive and calls me too sensitive, then we end up arguing. Even if he relents, he'll start it back up usually the same day or next.
Example: last night I was cooking dinner, I made us some cocktails and I was baking him homemade bread all at the same time. He said "you better not be burning my dinner", which made me feel stressed out. He got angry when I asked him to stop and told me was only joking. I told him his "jokes" like that come off as passive aggressive.
He recently saw an Instagram post (origin unclear?) about typical autism traits. I have a lot of sensitivities that overlap, but I am not diagnosed. Since he saw this post, he keeps joking about how he loves me despite my autism (??). Now, anything I do or say that he perceives as autistic, he'll start joking about how he's convinced I'm autistic. I've told him I don't appreciate it and it's not funny.
This is just super recent stuff as of this week. The joking is relentless and every single week it's something different. I'm already burnt out because of the situation with my parents, my fuse is short, and I don't have the patience to continue pleading him to stop joking. His dad/family loves to joke like this and they do definitely poke fun of each other, but even he's admitted to having his feeling hurt by them when we go to visit. Am I truly just being too sensitive? I don't know what to do, any advice is appreciated.