So I am turning 22 next month. I had a long term relationship from 18 to 21. I didn't even try that much for that girl. She was the prettiest girl in my class, and her socials would be always flooded with compliments about her looks. So, I would only tease her and flirt with her sometimes but none of them were directed on her looks.
I had a crush on this girl on class 7, but since I was morbidly obese at that time, she didnt even look at me. Also she would tell me that she is not interested in relationship, and she was seriously anti relationship at that time upto class 11. In class 12, I started working out, lost all the weight and became jacked. This gave me extreme confidence. I started talking to her in class 11, but she would reply with one words or leave me on read for weeks. But she suddenly started talking to me nicely after I lost all the weights, but I give her the benifit of the doubt as she didnt know I lost all the weight due to lockdown.
I would make her laugh and smile all the times and would flirt with her based on her behaviour, which would make her super shy. Once a week I would call her hot, or kind, just for the thrill. One day she told me that she has crush on someone, I was seriously dissapointed and didnt talk to her for a day. She spammed my phone with calls and messages, later on she said it was me.
We were in a relationship for 3 years, but she was not my type. Other than being hot and pretty she had nothing in her. She was extremely boring and had no life of her own. Which eventually led to breaking of our relationship.
When I joined college, I didnt make much effort to socialize, as I thought she would be my love of my life and I dont need anyone else. I would never talk to any girls in college. But she kept her options open which I was unaware of.
After breaking up, she started dating a new girl in few weeks.
This really hurt me, but I have moved on. I think I am ready for a new relationship. But the issue is, I forgot how to flirt, how to approach women, where to find women, etc. Things seem to have changed now. People specially girls have massive egos. Ugly girls seem to be in some different planet.
Earlier, we had a option to choose ugly girls, as they were considered to have good personality. But now pretty girls have already higher ego, uglier girls too have same level of ego.
Also I dont go to college, I have 1 year left. I am also doing CA+CS. There are girls in our college, I agree. But I am not that popular in college, and I havent approached anyone.
Where and how to find women? How to flirt with them? What are the steps for dating someone? Why does dating seem so hard now that 2021-22?