About a week before Christmas I bumped into a VERY old friend at an event. I haven’t seen him since I was 13 (I’m now in my 30s). It was a beautiful reunion, he was great to talk to, we talked for a while and then we exchanged numbers. I texted the next day and said it’d be nice to meet for a coffee soon. He enthusiastically said yes. Context is, I’ve moved back to my hometown after over a decade away. He moved away (I believe a couple of years ago) so he is just here for the holidays. We bumped into each other at another party a couple of days later, where he and I talked for 3 hours but only after this girl left who I later on found out he might be dating? Idek because he has not said anything about this relationship. As things would have it, I’m seeing him tomorrow and someone I know just texted telling me he’s on a date with the same girl. He hasn’t told me he’s dating her, and if he is they are long distance. About tomorrow: remember when I said the original plan was coffee? Well, yesterday he also asked if we can meet at mine tomorrow, “for a good reason”. I really don’t want any bullshit and need him to tell me what it is. I’m too grown for random games. Need advice. I don’t wanna make a huge deal out of it because ultimately nothing has happened between us, although he has been very flirty and he had his hand on my ass for a good amount of time at that party. Do I like him? Yes, I really do. He’s intriguing and smart, and I’ve admittedly not been this attracted to anyone in a while. But I’m not in the mood for mess over a halfway decent man. I’m thinking of cancelling. I need him to be honest with me, and I really need to know how to move forward from here. I also don’t want to make a mountain over a molehill and have a whole confrontation over a man I was not thinking about literally 2 weeks ago. Advice very welcome.