My girl friend can't orgasm from fingering, at least that we have achieved, however she says it feels like its super close every time and she things it would be better than a clitoral orgasm if she could get it.

I've tried combining the two, typical palm up two fingers in, while giving her oral, but its just too tight quarters and I either can't move my hand enough or my chin hits my hand and I can't go low enough to reach her clit.

Does anyone have advice on how I can either do both at the same time or improve it for her in other ways? Maybe something we can try to possibly get her to orgasm from fingering alone?


4 comments

  1. Try 3 fingers and try and stretch your fingers out to stretch her out. And don’t just hit the clit. Go around the clit. Talk to her about what is working and what is not working.

  2. Its really not that hard lol. Sure its a little tight and cramped but so what?
    2 fingers is all you need. Massage the gspot. Try going in and out or doing small circles and see if she responds more to one of them.

    If you want to try and get her off with just fingers then lay beside her so you are face to face and you can reach down and hook two fingers in and hit her spot easily. Look her in the eyes and either dirty talk to her or praise her while fingering her. This drives my girlfriend wild.

  3. I’m having trouble imagining the positioning that’s causing issues unless you’re physically much larger than your gf, but a couple ideas that open up space:

    – Kneel at her side, perpendicular to her such that if you moved your tongue up and down in your mouth it would be left to right on her body. Your arm will be at a slightly funny angle for fingering but you won’t be fighting with yourself for space.

    – Pop a pillow under her hips to open up space between her and the bed. Then instead of a straight in-and-out motion you can work on the diagonal, out-and-down to in-and-up

    As far as just fingering goes, you can penetrate with your ring/middle fingers and rub her clit with your index finger (+thumb if she likes that much contact) in one smooth motion. The extra stimulation might help, but many women prefer a dextrous touch around the clit and it’s clumsier combined with penetration on the same hand so may not be satisfying.

  4. Like another comment mentions, add a folded pillow or rolled blanket/towel under her hips during oral. The extra space below can be really helpful. Alternatively positions where her hips/butt are on the edge of the bed and you kneel on the floor (put down some padding for your knees) can also give you more space to work.

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