I (24M, working professional) matched with a girl on a dating app. We’ve been chatting for a short while and things feel normal and respectful so far. She’s 18+ and a college student.
We planned to meet at a café, but it didn’t work out due to timing issues. Now, the only time she’s free is during the day, and she suggested meeting at my place instead. There’s been no sexual conversation or pressure from either side.
She says she trusts me and feels safe, but I’m personally uncomfortable with a first meeting being at my home. I prefer meeting in a public place first, mainly for safety and boundaries — for both of us.
Am I being overly cautious here, or is it reasonable to insist on a public place for the first meet even if the other person is okay with coming over?
Looking for honest opinions, especially from people who’ve been in similar situations.