I’m m20, in college, and I’ve noticed something weird. Whenever a guy struggles with dating, the advice is never practical, it’s philosophical.
“Don’t chase women.”
“Become your best self.”
“Get rich, get jacked, and they’ll find you.”
But no one says this about literally any other skill. You don’t become good at sales by “focusing on yourself.” You don’t get good at public speaking by lifting weights.
So why do we pretend dating is different?
Is “focus on yourself” just a socially acceptable way of telling men to stop trying so we don’t have to acknowledge how brutal modern dating actually is? Or does it really work?