Me: dysfunctional family with verbal abuse, SAd by two ex boyfriends
My husband: well-adjusted, relaxed and happy family
My husband and family's love language is teasing each other. The longer we've been together the more comfortable he is poking fun at me lightly, especially around family during the holidays. His family pokes fun at each other and me pretty constantly about basically anything. They also make a ton of sexual references and innuendos, joke about not having enough sex and whatnot. Which isn't something I can really make light of due to my past.
The problem is that I experience a lot of it in a sensitive way (totally involuntarily). I don't really have comebacks, and sometimes it even drives me to tears when it's something sensitive like my appearance or sex related (which I would excuse myself to do).
I've brought this up to him and he told me, basically this is how we communicate, and how we show affection, it's not going to change. I should add that it is all clearly lighthearted fun, so I don't blame him for being frustrated. I'm quite literally the only one in the family with all his siblings and their wives and cousins that can't take a joke.
I'm in therapy and working on acceptance of my sensitivity but that doesn't help my marriage.
What do I do?