Needing advice on how to best feel fulfilled in the bedroom.
Hi, so my bf (29M) and I(25F) have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together this past summer but even before then, I have felt unsatisfied in bed. Every single time we do stuff its the exact same thing, in the exact same order. I know what to expect and when because its always the same. Even with positions, we only do 2 and its a 95/5 split between which one we use. He's never gone down on me, never even tried to, he doesn't like using toys or anything to do with kinks I have. Lately we've also not done anything (like 1 time in the last probably 3 or 4 months) and every time I try to initiate, he turns it down, which is fine and I respect it as I hope he'd do for me. But I also feel like we're losing both the physical and emotional connection with each other. I've brought this up to him a few times, most recently in October but nothing has changed. I'm not quiet sure how to best bring it up again because I don't want to seem pushy, but I'm starting to question if it's something I did or am doing to cause it. This has only really started since April or May, I think i can count on one hand how many times we've been intimate since May, but before then everything was fine in terms of how often we did things. Any advice on how to best navigate this conversation again would be nice, thank you.
TL;DR: The intimacy between my bf (29M) of almot 3 years and and me (24F), is almost nonexistent, and when we did anything it was always the exact same. I've brought it up a few times and was kind of brushed off so I'm needing help on how to best navigate this conversation again. Any help or advice is appreciated!