(fresh account for personal reasons, sorry for bad english)
My gf of 5 years says she has a libido problem, she doesn't want sex like she used to this summer. Every time we program sex she tries to get in the mood some day in advance but the pressure is too much and we and up not doing it. I'm not mad about the fact that we don't have sex but i dont like seeing her this stressed about something that's supposed to be a way to bond and relief ourselves. She ensured me it was not because of something i did, which was my biggest fear.
When we confronted about this she asked me to help her out with it. She said programming is not the solution because the feel too much pressure and would like me to take more control over the start. Now, I'm glad she was open about it and I'm happy to help her out, but i'm absolutely clueless on how to do it without being seen as a maniac or being marked as a SA.
We don't live toghether but we're at a 10 minute ride from each other, we both live with our parents and there are very few times where we have an empty house.
How can i handle this situation? Can you guys give me some tips when you/your partner helps the other libido? Anything from immediate to long term actions are appreciated