I’m a 20/F, and the other person involved is a 20/M. We have known each other for a few years and have been intimate in the past.
During sex, he commented that I’m “very loud.” I don’t know if it was meant jokingly or as feedback, but it immediately made me feel embarrassed and self-conscious. It took me out of the moment completely.
I responded by saying that if it was an issue, then maybe he shouldn’t invite me over. After that, I chose not to continue and left because I felt uncomfortable continuing once that comment was made.
I’m curious about sexual communication in general. How should preferences or feedback be expressed during sex without making the other person feel judged or ashamed? And when a comment crosses that line, what’s a healthy way to respond in the moment while still protecting your comfort and self-respect?