I am a very queer person and a furry, my mom and her side of the family very much aren't, my mom every time we talk deadnames me, ises the wrong pronouns, and treats the things i like as childish, as a phase, tells me to grow up and insults the things that i love.

I have literally started avoiding wearing clothes i typically wear whenever I go see her nd the family. Ive tried explaining what i like, ive tried telling her to stop, i tried showing her the things i like, im putting in effort to try and make something work.

And she either doesn't put in effort or just insults me and what i like. And when i tried ignoring her she threatens to shut off my phone take me off the phone plan and cut me off her insurance im still on. I hate the way she treats me and wish she wouldn't. Outside of all of this she is a relatively normal mom.

However most of her side of the family is like this.

Tldr my mom constantly disrepects who i am and i am debating cutting her out of my life entirely


4 comments

  1. You have every right, and you probably should at least minimise contact and stop trying to get her to understand. You don’t deserve this horrible treatment from anybody, ESPECIALLY not the person that is supposed to love you the most. I’m so sorry.

  2. Not sure what GF means (gluten free?), but, by all means move out, get your own phone and medical plans, and go no contact if you feel your mother is cruel and not adding value to your life. There are plenty of online platforms for finding like-minded housemates and community. Go for it!

    EDIT: Oh, I bet it’s genderfluid! In that case, do your pronouns change? Are they neopronouns? If yes to either of those questions, I’d be inclined to cut your mother a bit more slack in that department.

  3. If you don’t need to be financially dependent on her then you should do whatever makes you feel most comfortable and safe.

  4. Question- are you showing up in furry related outfits? Is your name also the name of your fursona? Are you exclusively talking to her about furry stuff?

    I ask because that will inform my advice to you.

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