Hi everyone! I (31F) met this guy (32M) a couple weeks ago. We had an insanely good first date, really connected a lot, and the week after had another really good one.
What I came to say is, whenever we are together everything really flows. But when we are apart, I feel like he’s almost another person. In person, we talk a lot, intimacy is great, we spent a ton of hours each time, and I feel it’s the first time in a long time I’m having a genuine connection. But when we aren’t together, he texts me maybe once a day, or almost every 24h, usually to reply to something I said. I know not everyone communicates the same, but I feel that in the beginning of things a bit more effort is appreciated. He mentioned previously having no time for himself during the work week, which I can respect. But then I see he’s online a lot, just ignoring me.
I know I could reach out and say something along the lines of my communication preferences, but I’m not sure if it’s too soon, or even if that will create some sort of imbalance in availability for the other.
We haven’t talked about expectations, except to say we are both “getting to know each other”, and from my understanding, he hasn’t been going on other dates. We also didn’t talk about the next (possible) date, but the last time we saw each other, he made small mentions that indicated wanting to be together again.
I might be suffering from anxious attachment or something like that.
How do you usually deal with this ? Do you think I’m overreacting or overthinking too much?
P.S.: I’m sorry for any grammar mistakes.