We have been together for almost 3 years now. We've always agreed to have kids one day but we never really got into the details of when we would have those kids.
I am currently working a job that requires me to work almost 100 hours a week. She also works an extremely hectic schedule. Recently she has been getting more anxious about the future and fertility because she's nearing 30 and we still have not gotten married.
The problem thus far has been that she wants to have kids soon as in no later than 2027 whereas I personally don't feel ready for kids until maybe 3 years from now when my job is more flexible and my finances are more stable.
I've gotten advice that nobody is ready for kids but I don't see how that argument justifies getting married and having kids soon. I've also heard that if we both aren't "running to the altar" to get married, then there's some underlying issue/we aren't meant to be married.
We still get into occasional arguments and disagree on some things like any couple but otherwise feel compatible. However, I don't want her to wait for me to have kids if she doesn't want to have kids late and she doesn't want to force me to marry her and have kids soon if I'm not ready. We've been at a standstill for nearly 6 months now and I feel a decision needs to be made so that we can both respect our time and wishes. Has anyone gone through similar situations and how did it turn out?
TL;DR Nearly 3 years together and now just realizing we want kids at different points of our lives, so now do we end the relationship or does someone just have to compromise and risk it