I am fairly new to giving head and I'm quite nervous about it. I'm with a guy who has had many previous partners. He has told me that only a couple of women in his life have been able to finish him during oral, but when I ask about what exactly they were doing he said he can't quite remember as it was a long time ago and it's kind of hard for him to describe what actually got him there as it was different every time. He said the girls were very experienced, had a lot of confidence and didn't give up. But couldn't tell me anything about technique. I don't have the confidence or the experience so I'm feeling quite nervous and shy but I want to get over my nervousness and give it a really good go.

He also expressed that oral can make him feel self conscious and uncomfortable because it often doesn't lead to an orgasm and he gets in his head about that. He said some women in the past have gotten frustrated when they feel that he is taking too long.

So I have questions:

  1. What is the average time for a blowjob? I know every guy is different but ya know, average time.

  2. If my guy doesn't usually cum, when do I like, decide that's enough and move onto something else?

  3. I want to make him feel comfortable if he doesn't finish. How can I transition out of a blowjob gently if I can tell he isn't going to finish?

  4. He's pretty quiet during all sexual acts. How do I know if he's actually enjoying it?

  5. To make a guy cum, is it always necessary to speed up and go quite fast? Is speed the main factor here? And how do you know when to start speeding up/start moving to the finish line?

I have some health issues, so blowing him then moving into sex after often isn't available. So the focus really would just be on him for the whole session.

Thanks!

EDIT: he almost never finishes during PIV, and also has trouble finishing on his own sometimes.


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