I (27F) had an overwhelming day at work and I wanted to spend the night with my boyfriend (34M) afterwards. We have been with eachother for just over a year now and we love eachother very much, things between us are fantastic. He said that he needed the night to himself to rest because he also had a tough day and had to work the next day. He had to work last Saturday and only got Sunday off before working this Saturday again, so I definitely understand how tired he must be. So the situation is that I wanted to spend time with him because of a tiring day and week, but he wanted time to himself for the same reason.
So I didnt spend time with him and he rested. Im not upset with him, just bummed out because I would have liked to spend time with him to make myself feel better. Im not asking who is right or wrong, I dont think anyone is wrong, im just wondering what your opinions and advice are on this. How do we navigate when we have conflicting needs?
TL;DR: I wanted to spend time with my boyfriend after an overwhelming day to help feel better, but my boyfriend wanted the night to himself to rest because of an overwhelming day. Any advice on how to navigate these two conflicting needs?