Me and my husband have been together for 8 years married for just under 2.
Last year we bought a house together and that's when the problem came up of him not showering. It started because we had to remodel the bathroom and for a month could only shower at our local gym or friends houses. He stuck to a strict "once a week" rule then so we didn't have to "waste time driving" and I was fine with that since it was only for 1 month.
But after the month was up, he stayed with the once a week rule. If we have an event like a family function, he may shower twice.
I've made some comments here or there that maybe he could jump in and rinse off every other day, I've bought him some nice shower stuff as a gift, and I've tried setting aside time for him in our schedule specifically to shower, but he will spend it playing video games instead.
It's put a huge damper on our love life because when I come to bed, I can smell him, and it's not pleasant. The only thing that works is if I tell him directly that I don't want to get intimate when I can smell his balls from 2 feet away. Usually he will begrudgingly jump in and wash up for less than 5 minutes.
He still wears cologne and deodorant so he clearly wants to smell nice, I just don't understand why hes so adverse to cleaning himself.
I'm at my wits end as it's really starting to affect our relationship. I don't want to be mean, but it's so far the only way I can get him to take action here.