posted my story here before but brief recap we have 3 dogs and a bird and I have life threatening allergies and the bird screams constantly and drives me nuts. after years of pleading for her to at least rehome this male basset hound after my allergies slowly got worse and worse and I was the only one cleaning for hours a day it came to a head and I was slammed out a door that broke my finnger. later on in another argument I was pushed towards stairs and a heavy cutting board was thrown at my neck during another crazy argument and also police were threatened to be called. I was not physical during these incidents and my wife also admits and realizes that.
6 months have gone by with me living in an apartment because I can’t physically be in that home with the dogs. she finally rehomed the one male basset with her aunt last week but wouldn’t have done it otherwise. this leaves 2 dogs and a bird still. I actually love the bird but he’s tough to deal with and the other dogs still cause me allergies. I went over last night to watch the ball drop and everything was going ok but then the allergies started again. I basically become a crying miserable husk of a human when I’m there and I cried in bed all night wishing I was back at my apartment that’s very clean and I love and have no health problems there. she is now promising to rehome all animals and move if needed. I don’t know how to move forward or if I should even believe it. my our marriage counselor has also said it sounds like a bad situation to be in as well as my therapist. can I make this work? I don’t even feel in love anymore but I don’t know how to make it work and I don’t know if I’m wrong for holding the past abuse and 6 months apart against her. we used to be best friends I also want to note I hung myself a month ago but couldn’t finish the job