My husband and I (30) have been together for 10 years. We have three kids. 8, 5, and 2. January of 2024 (a month after having my youngest child) we moved out of our apartment and went to live with his sister “for a couple months” to prepare for our plan to move to MX from the US. His sister’s place didn’t work out and we were out of there by March. We moved into his parent’s house March of 2024 and we are STILL here. All five of us sleep in one small room. And we share a kitchen and common space. I don’t hate his parents but I feel judged all the time. We have no privacy. And in general they expect us to keep their house how it’s always been. No traces of my kids can be left out in the common areas at the insistence of his parents. I hate it here. I’ve made it known how unhappy I’ve been from the beginning. But it’s always “we just have x y z to do so we can move to MX”. It’s always about importing our cars or we have to go through every single item we own or he expects me to find a school for my children to attend in MX. I’m not fluent in Spanish and neither are my kids. Moving to MX has been a dream of mine since we got married but it’s been 2 years and it hasn’t happened. Not to mention January of 2025 I had to be admitted to an inpatient psychiatric hospital for 7 days bc I was so depressed and suicidal. Ever since then whenever I bring up just finding a place in the states my husband makes it out to be the same amount of work as moving to MX. he keeps giving me dead lines. They all pass by with no progress. I am now feeling the same feelings from last January. Like I’m stuck and any time I bring up how depressed and anxious I am I get this feeling like my husband thinks I’m a spoiled brat. Like I want to live in luxury rather than just wanting to not be in this cramped house with his parents and his oldest brother. Who treats me and him like shit. He walks around ignoring us or complaining like we are the biggest inconvenience to him. Someone who doesn’t even own this house.
Also I want to start a career as a tattoo artist, but my husband does not give me any space or time to do that. I am constantly taking care of the kids. He gets off work and spends hours on the computer or fixing our cars he is insisting we import and take with us. I’m not allowed to practice on fake skin in his parents house bc his parents do not approve of tattooing/moms working outside the home when kids are young. So I have to go to my sister’s house to practice and I only get a couple hours at a time a couple days a week when my friend we pay to watch our youngest can help in between her other job. He acts like giving me time and space to develop my skills and start making money is impossible. I have no money and right now no working car. I feel absolutely trapped and discouraged. I love him and I don’t want to leave him but I am not well mentally and it seems he won’t do anything to change our situation. Idk what to do.