Im 24F and im currently in an LDR with my bf, we see each other every 4-6 months. I usually have a high libido and his used to be higher than mine. When we would sext, the convo were always very kinky and the first time we met we actually did try some stuff (the more vanilla ones though), but i could never finish and he also expressed being anxious about going down on me which is something hes never done before.
So i thought he just needs some time, however during our second visit we had less sex (every other day instead of every day) and it was always the same 2 positions (mostly me riding him), at first he was barely touching me (like my boobs etc) until i pointed it out and he changed that. He also didnt go down on me that time. Im seeing him again soon and im starting to wonder if he lost interest in all the kinks we discussed or if me not finishing the first time i visited made him lose his confidence and as such made him scared to try anything
I dont really know how to bring this up with him without hurting his feelings or making the situation worse/awkward. Also im myself a little worried that he is just not enthusiastic about focusing on my pleasure.