This is probably the worst place to ask this and I usually don’t use this app for personal questions but I’m intrigued by scrolling through this feed. I’m dating this girl , and she’s a virgin. Now I’m not , I’m someone who actually has a past and have had partners in the past. She knows this but to an extent. I’ve been dating her for a year and still no play . Majority the time I’m giving oral , and I may get some every like 3 months . Keep in mind , we’re both younger than 22. It’s gotten to the point when I ask her it’s always “I’m not ready” “no I don’t wanna” “no I feel disgusted”. Now I’ve told her that this won’t work out if this is how the future is going to look like (had this convo like 2 months in) and she said it won’t but as well she made remarks as “I don’t wanna come home and just fuck “, which in my head doesn’t seem bad especially if we both had a long day at work, but It’s now pushing a year and I’m truly like drained. It’s gotten to the point I don’t fantasize or get aroused by her anymore . Which I think is sad because I would think as a women u would want ur bf to be attractive to u sexually and only u. But even when I’ve admitted this to her, she still says no she’s not ready. And I’m kinda frustrated and confused , because she has a great personality and a good person but this a sexual , no sex bs is getting to me because ive had past partners who have hit me up to do things and i say no . But as of like 2 weeks ago , ive had one hit me up and instead of saying no , i just left her on a “i see when i got time” as an excuse . Should I just cave in and just have a lil side piece till idk when she’s ready , or should I end it ? I feel like it’s dumb if i end it over sex but as well i have wants and needs , and if your not into that , why drag me in a relationship for over a year and have me wait for nun ?. I think it’s dumb on her end because I’ve met her parents , she has met mine , and we get along , it’s just this boring 45 yr old marriage feeling is finally getting to me and I just don’t know wat to do. I hate feeling like we’re a 60 yr old couple who don’t have sex because there bodies don’t work . Also to add to this , we’ve known each other for almost 3 years and dating for 1 , so it’s not like I’m just some random person . Idk everyone around me (even women) tell me she either cheating (which idk I doubt but idk), she’s asexual , which she said she isn’t but she gets “disgusted” by those things , or she’s a Christian, which the way she speaks about them, I highly doubt . So chat what do I do!