Before i do the sex, i already told her my kink and she agree with it. However when we do it, she giggled because she found it funny and absurd ( it happen not only once ) Honestly, it really turn me off. It really stress me out that my kink never gonna be taken seriously. How to deal with this?
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If she’s not into your kink and you don’t wanna live without it, breaking up is the only option, can’t force someone to like what you like. Or just live with it if the relationship is worth it. Or maybe she will get used to it.
So fucking curious what it is tho lol.
You need to be more specific. How experienced are you? How experienced is she? How old are each of you? What type of kink are we talking about? Could she be laughing because she is nervous and upset? Could she be laughing because she thinks it is ridiculous or silly but has no problem with it? Could she be laughing because it makes her happy and she wants to do it too but giggled so that she wouldn’t feel too excited?
I don’t know whether your kink involves other 12 other people and a pile of chicken poop and motor oil or simply both of you dressed in green panties in a candlelit room, unfortunately context does matter.
Hey why don’t you tell us what the kink is? We will let you know if it’s the kind of thing that’s gonna make *all* the girls giggle 😃
Did she actually say it was funny and absurd in her mind or did you assume? This is something that comes real easy from any insecurity within. I’ve had many similar experiences that actually turned around really quickly when i asked about it and this turnaround actually doubled my turn on regarding “the giggle”, now i cannot go to town without “the giggle” anymore. Jokes aside, i’m actually serious, our minds make things up, she might have giggled because she found your kink exciting.
Well what’s the kink???
Listen. Some kinks are just weird or goofy as hell. I’d try not to take the laughter personally but let her know that the laughing does distract from the ability to enjoy the act. If it’s new to her maybe she can take it more seriously the more she tries. If she is also belittling you or laughing AT you for it. That’s a different issue and would make plenty of people feel pretty bad about it. You need to figure out what and why it’s funny to her and also let her know how it makes you feel. As always communication is everything. The fact that she’s doing the kink at all with you is generally a good sign though even if funny/awkward at first. You may have had this kink for years but maybe it’s still new to her.
Laughter in general should not be a problem, even in the bedroom. It usually means people are having a good time.
Well is it a giggle or a laugh?
Cause giggling could just mean she’s enjoying it. But if it’s difficult to say when we dont know the specific kink. If its BDSM and/or role-playing I can understand why giggling might feel weird in the moment to you.
As someone with an honest-to-Dog funny kink: depending on what you’re into, you may need to get comfortable with potential partners having a little laugh when you tell them about it or when they first try it with you! It doesn’t mean they don’t want to try, nor does it mean there’s something wrong with your desires. Having sex can bring out a lot of emotions in people, and IMO one of the best feelings is joy and laughter.
Some people also laugh when they’re nervous, so if you truly don’t think your kink is that funny, maybe ask her if it was a nervous giggle. The laughter may ease up over time once both of you are more comfortable together or once she’s more used to the idea, if that’s the case. You can let her know that you’re into a more serious vibe for scenes, but you also have to be realistic if your kink is just that goofy.
(Also before anyone asks, my silly kink is WAM, particularly the stuff like throwing pies in faces. Laughing during a scene is expected!)
Now I need to know the kink really bad
Was it a baby diaper kink
Better giggle than cry I think
His kink is to have his cat on his back while fukking
Even in some dark BDSM role play, experienced participants allow humor. Sometimes participants become giggly in the middle of play.. some humor help relax both and connect better.
just because she giggled that does not mean she is disrespectful of your desires. You are lucky that your partner did not flat out refused or act disgusted by your kink. Allow her some space and also be receptive to her fantasies and show effort to play her fantasies out for her too.