I’m a very successful woman, been dating my BF for 4 years ( friends for 15 years). We’re in our 40s/50s, both divorced with kids. Both own our own houses and have good careers. We see each other consistently and stay at each other’s’ houses, travel together, go to holidays together with each other’s families. Are lives are completely melded. We share the same values, political beliefs, etc. We have good communication and are always in touch when we’re not together. As a Christian (he is too) I struggle with premarital sex and always feel guilty about it. He knows this. I broke up with him this summer because of no formal commitment. We got back together after seeing neither of us wanted life without the other. I brought up engagement, marriage. He said he wanted forever with me but was scared of marriage because of what he went through with his ex-wife. He knows I am the complete opposite of her morally and would never cheat like she did. I’m not going to give an ultimatum; I’m a great catch. I don’t want to lose him but I do want a legitimate commitment before God. Any advice?