Over five years ago, I (25F) moved in to live with my partner (24M) and his family. I grew up with a pretty bad family, and moving was the best option for me at the time as I was facing being homeless, the last five years have been great. By the end of 2026, I will have a degree, and my partner should also be able to finish his studies too. I currently do not work, but have been looking for a job in the last 2 months as I need the income, but it has not been going well. We moved in together quickly, after only dating for 2 months, it was not ideal, but it was the best for me at the time and I do not at all regret living here and having his family's support over the past five years.
Recently, my partner and I found out that his parents are struggling financially, and it has put an immense strain on our relationship. My partner works a 9-5, while also managing studying, originally it was Mon-Fri, but now he also is working some weekends, so most weeks are a six day work week. Originally, his parents were taking $1000 a month as living expenses, but now it has gone a lot further. These financial struggles with his parents are now leading them to potentially having to find a new, and more affordable place to rent, which I am totally understanding of because of how expensive the rental market is where we live.
Essentially, the parents took out a loan to get the brother a car, which he crashed, then the mum quit her job just before Christmas because she wanted to be at home more and be able to support the youngest brother with his sports (the brother is 20M) and now money is a very big issue here. My partner's parents spoke to us over the weekend about how they can not afford for my partner to move out, and he will have to now take on a role of being more financially responsible for the household. This will include still paying the $1000 a month living expenses, but also being required to pay for the home internet, phone bills, and pitching in for the weekly grocery money. My partner and I sat down and totalled this up to being pretty much his whole monthly paycheck (this is mainly due to the younger brother having a special diet, which is extremely expensive, and is not currently sustainable for the parents to afford without help)
Now, my partner and I have been fighting, as I am considering moving out to live with some other family members, my partner is strongly against this, as he thinks that it will lead to the end of our relationship. I don't really want to lose this relationship, but I do genuinely believe that if something does not change, then I will be stuck putting up with his family and their financial demands for the rest of my life. Any advice is appreciated, I'm sorry if this does not make sense.
TLDR: my partners parents are struggling financially and it is leading to myself (25F) and my partner (24M) to have a rocky relationship