this is my first time posting on reddit so i'm sorry if this maybe incoherent or even a minuscule problem.
I [20F] have been with my boyfriend [20M] for almost 2 years now and recently i have done a lot of reflection over how i've been treated in the past year or so and i'm slowly realizing that i am not okay with how i've been treated.
(i will be making this post quite vague cause i dont want to involve those close to me just yet)
I am a very low maintenance person while in a relationship. I spend a lot of my time studying or doing assignments since my degree calls for it, so i don't like being doted on. but i have noticed that my boyfriend does not bother to make plans and expects either i make them for him or we just do nothing. sometimes i do enjoy doing nothing but it's just exhausting to constantly make decisions and what not.
he also has a really bad habit of sleeping in like crazy. it has gotten in the way of a handful of our plans, and to be completely honest it infuriates me. i only get the weekend off and i try to make time for him since he works full time. so considering i take so much time to get prepared and it feels like my time gets disrespected. so when he does show up i have to pretend like im not upset. the last few times this has happened it wasn't by a few minutes it was by HOURS and i couldn't mask my emotions so i cancelled.
i am not confrontational and i have voiced my emotions but i get a half assed sorry from him every time but there has been no change. i have tried to ask if he is willing to get checked by a doctor cause its starting to negatively impact his work as well an he refuses to do so.
i have talked to my best friend (carly) about this and she is telling me to break up with him since he refuses to take my emotions seriously (her words verbatim). she really emphasizes that this has been an ongoing issue since the start of my relationship and i really don't know what to do.
so how do i address this with him since he clearly doesn't want to change his habits?