I (18F) and my “friend” (18M) have been talking for a little over a month romantically. I met him over summer in July when we both were talking to someone and we kept in contact after. We both are single now and only recently have we realized we have feelings for each other. I invited him to my birthday party in a little over a week and I am really excited to see him again. My issue is that we said we would kinda take it slow but I want to tell him I love him because I do. I want to tell him all the time but I know texting it isn’t the same. I might not see him for a while after my party and I just want to tell him before we don’t see each other for a while. We are flirty and I know he likes me, I’m just scared that I will scare him away. I havnt felt this way in so long since the last guy I talked to really messed me up, he knows this and I think he feels the same. We have already kissed and I just kinda want to hear thoughts because I don’t kiss people without loving them but I’m scared that’s not the case for him.
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You’re not actually in love with him, because you don’t really know him well enough yet. You’re certainly infatuated, with high hopes that this could turn into a long-term romance. But from what you’ve posted, he already knows that.
What’s the rush, OP? You only met him six months ago, you’ve been flirting and getting increasingly romantic for about a month, and you’re both only 18. You’re right to worry that you’ll scare him away by using the L word so soon, because – I’ll say it again – you barely even know him as a real person, and vice versa. You’re motivated by your fantasy that he could be your person, but you’ll need a lot more information about how he treats you IRL before your brain can catch up with your heart and your imagination. I’d advise you to give it time, keep an open mind, and enjoy the process of getting to know him better rather than trying to seal the deal at your birthday party.
Wow… that’s a lot. Perhaps ask him to be in a relationship with you before saying you love him. Alternatively, be you, say it to him at your party. Find a nice spot to chat and tell him how you feel.