A couple of months ago, my boyfriend had to start going to PT has he had been experiencing bad vertigo caused by dislodged ear crystals. It was there that he met the topic of this post.
Now for context, my boyfriend is the definition of golden retriever. He is extremely friendly and loves having conversations with anyone and everyone. He’s sort of on the hippy dippy side in that he loves to talk about existential topics – psychedelics, meaning of life, the future of humanity, etc. so anytime he meets someone that shares in the same interests, he really loves to dig into their minds and get their perspective on things. We have been together for almost 4 years and have an 11 month old together and he has not a single time given me even a shred of a reason to believe that he is even remotely interested in anyone else. In fact, he just wrote me the most beautiful letter for Christmas telling me that I am his best friend, chosen life partner, and I recently (accidentally) found out he just bought an engagement ring for me.
With all that said, he mentioned to me shortly after starting PT that he really likes his PT – in that he thinks we could be really good friends. He said she shares a lot of our same values and sense of humor and is around our age. His PT is married as well. Since then, he has brought up trying to make plans for her and her husband and us to do a double date.
Now, this is not totally out of the norm –
My boyfriend used to work for Lyft and we met our now best friends who are also a couple because of him and his determination to make a time to hang out with them after giving them a ride and thinking they were super cool.
But it seemed a little, idk odd for a medical professional to give her personal number to a patient?
I’m not the type to go through his phone, so idk how often they text/talk but it doesn’t seem all that often.
We had also planned a watch party for the finale of stranger things and he wanted to invite them.
Then this morning, he screenshotted a message that he sent to her and sent it to me in which he was describing a dream he had of her and I meeting. It was a funny dream – nothing sexual – but idk why it made my stomach a little uneasy. We used to text each other every morning of funny dreams that we would have before moving in together, so I guess it reminded me of that and I got a little jealous.
I guess I’m just asking for advice on what to do or for someone to tell me that I’m literally playing this all up in my head for no reason and to let it go. It doesn’t help that my boyfriend is objectively 14/10 attractive and he has the most infectiously positive and beautiful personality to go with it. So maybe I’m just being a bit insecure. What do you think?