So I M25 been seeing this F23 for a little over two months now, and honestly things have moved pretty fast. She’s met my family and a couple of my friends, we’ve slept over at each other’s places, and we call each other babe, baby, etc. It really feels like we’re already in a relationship, just without the title.
I asked her a few times if she felt like things were moving too fast, because I’ve never had something progress this quickly with someone. She told me that yes, things have been fast, but that it feels right to her.
She went home for the holidays, and during that time apart I realized how much I missed her and how much I enjoy being around her. That’s when I knew I wanted her in my life and wanted to make things official by asking her to be my girlfriend.
After she got back, I spent the night at her place and asked her how she felt about where we’re at and the idea of being in a relationship. She told me she honestly hadn’t even thought about that because she was busy during the holidays and is really stressed about the next few months.
What confuses me is how we can act like we’re dating, move this fast, and meet each other’s friends and family, yet the idea of being in a relationship never crossed her mind. She then said that right now her answer would be no, only because it’s still early. She also said that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like me, because she wouldn’t be spending all this time with me if she didn’t which I agree with.
I know it’s still early, but based on how things have been going, it felt like the right time to me. Now I’m just confused about what to do. I’m wondering if I should pull back a bit and give her less attention. I hate playing games, but I’m scared of getting hurt or putting more time into this if she isn’t 100% sure about me.
I also don’t know if I should bring up what she wants long-term or what she expects from us right now. That’s something I probably should’ve asked in the moment, but I honestly didn’t know what to say when she told me she wasn’t ready. I’m just really confused, because I thought we were on the same page. I’m looking for advice on where to go from here and how I should approach things/act moving forward.
TL;DR:
Been seeing a girl for a little over 2 months and everything feels like a relationship (meeting family/friends, sleeping over, calling each other babe), but when I brought up making it official she said it’s too early and she’s not ready. She says she likes me, but now I’m confused about whether to pull back, clarify expectations, or just give it more time. Looking for advice on what to do next and how to act.