I 29F had just recently started dating my boyfriend 30M after talking for a few months. He’s a very sweet man that treats me well, and yet I still feel uncomfortable when he takes almost an entire day to respond. However this situation is less of me wanting validation on being upset and more on me seeking advice to heal this anxious attachment of mine. My emotions can’t help but think things like “He’s been awake for more than 12 hours now, why hasn’t he prioritized me enough to respond yet?” then fighting those thoughts with different streams of rationality ranging from “You know how busy he is” to “Girl you simply miss him, you’re more than your anxiety. He’ll respond when he can.”
He still texts me everyday, and then communicates why he was so busy when he takes a long time to respond. I’ve already communicated that I’d prefer faster responses but that it’s also more of a me issue than an issue I have with him.
Although it’s been getting easier, it’s still getting tiring having this internal tango in my brain multiple times a day, and I just want some advice from anyone that have resolved similar issues.