I, 28F, have been married to my 31M husband since 2018 and we had been together several years before we had gotten married. I was barely 18 when we got together and have only had 1 serious relationship prior to him with my best friend, 27F. I got a new job recently and there's this guy no clue how old he is but I suspect early 30's. He is hot, funny, kind, and hard working and I feel attracted to him. My husband is a gentleman he is loving and kind to me and our pets, not so much the rest of the world. He is funny and knows how to have lots of fun, loves to go out but it seems like I always go with him or stay home. All my friends are his friends and the few times ive tried to make friends he seems odd about it. Never rude or belittling and always clarifies that he trusts me just not the other person. Admittedly im not satisfied with our bedroom life, id like to go longer and do more things use more toys etc, we have discussed this he has thought about viagra or other things but we never do it or put any effort into talking to his doctor. rarely ever fight or argue, we like a lot of the same things, he has never been unfaithful or hurt me in any way. I can not see any reason to not be in love with him and when Im with him I do feel love for him when we are apart though I tend to fantasize about any other life and it never includes him anymore. Ive brought up marriage counciling before and that did not go over well at all. Has anyone had any experience like this or have any advice on what may be happening or what I might need to do? I
TL:DR: im attracted to someone else, my husband isnt a bad guy, I dont know what im feeling or what to do about it if anything