We have a small house, two toddlers and a dog. My (36m) wife (35f) is amazing in many ways, but one thing she is so bad about is leaving stuff everywhere and never addressing it. Everytime she gets something new, whether it’s clothes, mail, momentos from family, stuff from work, etc. she puts it down somewhere it’s like she immediately becomes blind to it and forgets it exists.
Even when I ask her to deal with stuff, she says she’s going to and then just leaves it. She lets mail, even important mail, pile up until I just open it for her and deal with it. She gets little goody bags and stuff from work and they just sit on our tiny kitchen counter taking up space until I find a place for them because I need the counter to cook on. Art supplies for the kids? Takes them out of the closet and they’re all over the counters/kitchen table hours or even days later. I could go on and on.
I’ve brought this up to her so many times because it really bothers me. I don’t mind things being a little messy but every surface in our house is cluttered with crap constantly because she has no physical filter plus we have two small kids who are constantly bringing home junk from parties/grandparents/school. It’s just overwhelming. It takes me 30 minutes just to clean off our kitchen counters every single day so I can cook dinner.
This all wouldn’t be the biggest deal if she was fine with letting me deal with it. But she consistently gets mad/annoyed when she can’t find something or I throw something away that I’ve repeatedly asked her to deal with. Even things that should be easy to classify as trash like boxes for electronics or shoes, it’s always “well I meant to keep that!” So why was it on the floor in the living room or sitting on our tv stand for three months then and not put away?
Has anyone else dealt with this? How can I get her to take this seriously?