Hello,
I (30 M) have managed to never attract a girl for a relationship in my life. To be fair, till my mid 20s I never actively tried and looked for "it will just happen be yourself".
I did improve since then. But still nothing in terms of romance.
Technically I got my life together, friends, hobbies from drawing to dancing, doing sports, can and like to cook, I am somewhat into fashion got a job and all that stuff.
I am generally well liked by the people in my life.
Now, after three months of apps, I have gotten two woman to date me. I cut one off after the second date, as I was not feeling it really. The other one seems motivated for a third date. Which is good dont get me wrong.
But I am not really feeling it, shes not doing anything wrong, I dont see major red flags or anything like that. But to be frank, I am currently not that into her visually or personality wise. The dates were not bad but also not too much fun?
Now my problem, I have never been in a relationship, got no experience and that itself is a red flag, I get it so I need to change that somehow. Also I would be good to make some experience eventually. And given my lack of success, maybe I should lower my expectations and just accept I found a person to further engage with me thas not crazy and see where it goes?
But I kind of fear that is dishonest to keep dating in hopes that I will eventually be attracted. I know I can be attracted to people for their personality even if they are not my type visually.
I dont want to be like "no one wants me" and reject woman perfectly on my level I guess? But my struggle is not only visual? Am I thinking too far ahead prior to a thrird date? I am kind of lost and just want to somehow do the correctly.