Hi everyone,
M33 F33
I’m looking for advice because I’m feeling stuck and don’t know how to handle my situation anymore.
I’ve been married for 6 years and we have two kids: one is 5 years old and the other is 18 months. My wife and both kids sleep together in the same bed. I sleep on a mattress on the floor next to them.
We do have a kids’ room, and I also bought a new, comfortable bedroom for us. I decorated the kids’ room with their favorite theme. My 5-year-old is actually okay with sleeping in their own room, but my wife refuses. When I try to talk about it, she takes the kids and sleeps with them in their room instead. I don’t want to force the situation because I don’t want to harm the kids’ comfort or emotional security.
Because of this, our marriage is suffering a lot. We sometimes go weeks without intimacy. When it happens, it’s usually very fast, in the living room, without comfort, privacy, or emotional closeness. I feel more like a roommate or a guest than a husband.
I’ve tried calm conversations and suggested solutions that respect the kids, but nothing changes. I feel lonely, frustrated, and disconnected in my own home.
I love my children deeply, but I also feel our marriage is slowly disappearing, and I don’t know how to fix this without creating conflict or hurting my kids.
Any advice or perspective would really help.
TL;DR: Married with two kids, wife co-sleeps with them and I sleep on the floor. She refuses to change this, intimacy is rare, and I feel lonely and disconnected. Looking for advice on how to handle this without harming my kids or marriage.