My wife and I have been together 13 years since I was 17 and her 19. in the past 5-6 years after having children and growing up more ourselves our sex life has gotten a whole lot better! More frequent sex, mutual masturbating, fooling around etc. however this has unlocked the squirting achievement. At first it was from including internal stimulation at the same time as clitorial and would have to put in a bit of work to do so. But now for about 5-6 months it’s happening purely from clitorial stimulation. I have absolutely no issues with it at all and quite enjoy it, clean up or having a towel down does not bother me. It’s apart of sex and sex isn’t something that will always be clean. But! My wife is somewhat over it and no longer enjoys it. She orgasms but at the same time the feeling of squirting ruins it for her. The sensation changes and she says it doesn’t feel the same any more. As a result of this sex is less frequent and with less sex comes less intimacy for us. We are both looking into ways and help to maybe work out a way to lessen the squirting or even ways to enjoy it again. We use a vibrator for the clitorial stimulation as we have found it is what we both enjoy. Like I said I have no issues with being soaked or soaked sheets but it’s something she no longer enjoys! Thanks 🙏


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  2. Pelvic floor physical therapy. Most women don’t know this exists but IMO it should be offered to all after childbirth

  3. The reason she’s not enjoying it, is because the orgasms aren’t as strong as other types of orgasms and it interferes with the other types of orgasms, its exhausting, and causes dehydration especially if she can squirt nonstop, and it makes a mess everywhere. Take a break from it and go back to “regular” sex for a while. Meaning the technique you’re using in her now, must change as well.

    If she has no control over it, she may need to see a pelvic floor specialist who can check for urinary issues or give tips om how to control it.

  4. When y’all are fooling around and she starts getting aroused, tell her to go pee. Empty it all out. This clears the skene’s gland out so the pressure of the orgasm won’t be used to squeeze it empty but rather just cause the normal orgasm feeling.

  5. Pelvic floor exercise will likely make it worse unless the cause is stress incontinence. Strengthening your pelvic floor won’t help an involuntary reflex. If so, see a physio for advice if you think could be incontinence but you would be at other times too.
    squirting is a physiological response, not a loss of control or a pelvic floor “problem”. Emptying the bladder before sex could help control the amount.
    Not a urologist but RN for 40 years

  6. Hi OP. Some of these responses are misleading. Pelvic Floor exercises would aim to strengthen your wife’s pelvic muscles. This will likely lead to MORE squirting. A weak pelvic floor could in theory release this fluid involuntarily, which would be characterised by more of a trickle or gush, than a squirt stream. What is possible is that your wife has muscle memory that causes her to bear down on her pelvic floor which is what releases the squirt fluid. I’m not aware of this being possible but if a pelvic floor therapist can help her weaken her pelvic muscles then that’s the only reason I’d suggest that type of therapy. Additionally, People are also confusing squirting as being conducive to an orgasm which is also incorrect. Perhaps some kind of tantric session and therapy to help her connect more with her body and control the releases and sensations could help. But everyone is different. These things are usually mental & might take trying a couple things to find what works. One way of lessening the amount of fluid is having your wife urinate prior to sexual activity and honestly, just being less hydrated in general. You could give her an orgasm without penetration, then she can go release her fluid in the toilet, which might make it likelier for her to not squirt during P in V.

  7. Have her pee before. Get some puppy blankets off Amazon and/or the pee pads. Keep a washcloth close by to wipe so that friction isn’t lost afterwards.

    Play around with sensation as you can tell when you’re about to squirt. Maybe pause and just kiss or fool around until the urge subsides. See if you can dial it in to exactly what doesn’t feel the same and go from there b

  8. I was 41 when I first squirted. I don’t believe it is the involuntary release of pee, though I do think there is some pee mixed in with the liquid that is released.
    I can pee before sex, squirt a lot, and then still can pee a lot post sex, which doesn’t make sense if I just wet the bed with my pee when I was squirting.

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