F(28) / M(25). We’ve been dating for almost 4 months. Today, I broke it off because he kept pinching my cheek even though I’ve clearly stated over and over again that I find it super uncomfortable. Now, to give the reader a little clearer idea, here is perspective from both ends.
His perspective: “This is how I express love. I do not do this intentionally” followed with never finding an alternative way to express.
My perspective: “We can find million other ways to express. Just do not pinch my face.”
Last conversation we had, he kind of downplayed my feelings saying something in the lines of “Tsk, tsk, tsk, how come I pinched my gf that I want to live with…”
Long story short, many things he does and says SOUNDS like manipulation but are they? I do not want to blindly trust my mind. In any argument which served the purpose to better our relationship, he never says “I’ll try my best to fix this for you”. He opts for “What am I supposed to do? / Let’s take a little break so you can think things over / What do you want to hear from me?”
Is this normal? Once again, it is a clear boundary that’s been known to him. Am I exaggerating? Please, let me know honestly.
TL;DR: This post is about a 4 month relationship and how crossing a simple, known boundary multiple times led to a break up.
Edit: Many thanks to all of you who takes their time and comments. I’ll reply to each one as best as I can.