29M, virgin – feeling deep frustration and pain about sex and relationships
I’m a 29-year-old male and still a virgin. This has been weighing on me more and more, and honestly it hurts a lot.
I feel frustrated knowing that so many people have sex so easily, while I’ve never been wanted or desired by anyone in that way. No one has ever shown sexual interest in me, and that’s something I struggle to understand.
What hurts especially is the thought that if I ever did meet someone, they would already have sexual experience. The idea of being the only one without any experience makes me feel deeply insecure and painful inside.
It feels like everyone else has had the chance to explore, make experiences, and live that part of life — and I’ve completely missed out. I can’t help comparing myself to others, and it makes me feel left behind and broken.
I don’t hate anyone for having experience, but I feel stuck and exhausted mentally because this never happened for me. I keep asking myself why this part of life just didn’t happen, and why I seem to be the exception.
I’m not looking to blame anyone. I just want to understand how others deal with these feelings and how to cope with this kind of frustration and loneliness.
The thought that a future partner would already have sexual experience, while I have none, hurts me deeply and makes it hard for me to imagine feeling comfortable or equal in a relationship.