I’m a 19-year-old woman, fit and physically attractive.
The guy is 5'8 and around 45kg (very underweight).
I want binary answers only:
A) I would accept this and date him
B) I would reject him because the physical mismatch is too extreme
A or B.
11 comments
B
Not enough information. I am assuming you are calling his lack of muscles your “mismatch” here, but it’s not clear. Are you implying you only wish to date fit men? If so, B. If not more clarification would help. Don’t date someone you’re not attracted to.
C Not enough information because attraction and decision to date someone is not solely based on their physical body.
Get to know them as a friend first, let them know you genuinely care and want them to develop healthy habits ?
really think this through, your asking the wrong question, your question reveals your shallowness, leave this poor boy alone
what you should be asking yourself, does he….
* **Speaks with Honor:** Using words that uplift rather than criticize or use sarcasm.
* **Receives Graciously:** Accepting help, gifts, and care as a way to allow a partner to give.
* **Asks Directly:** Making clear, unapologetic requests rather than hinting.
* **Appreciates Efforts:** Actively noticing and thanking a partner for what they provide.
* **Trusts Competence:** Believing in a partner’s ability to solve problems and provide.
* **Respects Boundaries:** Allowing a partner space, rhythms, and their own timing.
* **Does Not Compete:** Inviting partnership instead of entering into a rivalry or contest.
* **Sees Heroic Nature:** Recognizing when a partner is trying to “win” with you and celebrating those wins.
* **Values Time/Energy:** Honoring the time and focus a partner gives as a form of love.
* **Inspires, Not Demands:** Embodying desires to invite a partner to rise, rather than pressuring them with “shoulds.”
* **Practices Forgiveness:** Releasing grudges to maintain intimacy and safety.
* **Chooses Fully:** Loving a partner for their essence rather than trying to fix or change them.
I’ll go with B because the fact you are making this post means you aren’t very physically attracted to him and want someone more conventionally attractive.
A if you’re attracted to him. That’s the only thing that matters. That you’re different in size is not a problem as long as you’re both attracted to each other and not just with each other because they’re the only option. He might be able to make you more fit and you might be able to make him have a better weight.
You’re asking Reddit to tell you if you’re attracted to this guy? You either are or you aren’t, but don’t let people on the internet decide for you, and certainly don’t reject someone you are attracted to just because people on the internet said you’re a “mismatch”
Insufficient information.
You do seem like you’re asking for the wrong reason though.
This question reveals your lack of maturity.
Why do you need others to decide/influence about this question?
You’re asking us to tell you if you’re attracted to him.
11 comments
B
Not enough information. I am assuming you are calling his lack of muscles your “mismatch” here, but it’s not clear. Are you implying you only wish to date fit men? If so, B. If not more clarification would help. Don’t date someone you’re not attracted to.
C Not enough information because attraction and decision to date someone is not solely based on their physical body.
Get to know them as a friend first, let them know you genuinely care and want them to develop healthy habits ?
really think this through, your asking the wrong question, your question reveals your shallowness, leave this poor boy alone
what you should be asking yourself, does he….
* **Speaks with Honor:** Using words that uplift rather than criticize or use sarcasm.
* **Receives Graciously:** Accepting help, gifts, and care as a way to allow a partner to give.
* **Asks Directly:** Making clear, unapologetic requests rather than hinting.
* **Appreciates Efforts:** Actively noticing and thanking a partner for what they provide.
* **Trusts Competence:** Believing in a partner’s ability to solve problems and provide.
* **Respects Boundaries:** Allowing a partner space, rhythms, and their own timing.
* **Does Not Compete:** Inviting partnership instead of entering into a rivalry or contest.
* **Sees Heroic Nature:** Recognizing when a partner is trying to “win” with you and celebrating those wins.
* **Values Time/Energy:** Honoring the time and focus a partner gives as a form of love.
* **Inspires, Not Demands:** Embodying desires to invite a partner to rise, rather than pressuring them with “shoulds.”
* **Practices Forgiveness:** Releasing grudges to maintain intimacy and safety.
* **Chooses Fully:** Loving a partner for their essence rather than trying to fix or change them.
I’ll go with B because the fact you are making this post means you aren’t very physically attracted to him and want someone more conventionally attractive.
A if you’re attracted to him. That’s the only thing that matters. That you’re different in size is not a problem as long as you’re both attracted to each other and not just with each other because they’re the only option. He might be able to make you more fit and you might be able to make him have a better weight.
You’re asking Reddit to tell you if you’re attracted to this guy? You either are or you aren’t, but don’t let people on the internet decide for you, and certainly don’t reject someone you are attracted to just because people on the internet said you’re a “mismatch”
Insufficient information.
You do seem like you’re asking for the wrong reason though.
This question reveals your lack of maturity.
Why do you need others to decide/influence about this question?
You’re asking us to tell you if you’re attracted to him.
Please consider having your own feelings.