My (33F) husband (33M) is the sole provider for our family. It was never the plan, but I have limited career options where we live. It has been my goal for a couple years now to educate myself in order to expand my options.
We have a son (2.5yrs) who I take care of daily. He is one of the more easygoing toddlers I have met, and is smart and easy to keep entertained. Recently I asked my husband if I can have ten hours a week to start teaching myself basic coding. That would mean he would have to entertain our son in order to allow me to focus. He said it was impossible without daycare. We can't afford daycare. This man regularly games till the wee hours, so it isn't a lack of time or energy.
How do we approach discussing this further?