I live with my girlfriend and I work from home pretty much full time. I'll go into the office probably once every two weeks whereas my girlfriend is only home around once a week now that she has started her new job. Her old job was work from home so she'd occasionally do laundry and other chores during downtime.
I've been moved into a new team and have a lot of work to do so my downtime is pretty much non existent. My girlfriend has started asking me to do laundry and maybe do some dusting during the day. I've told her I will do it if I get time but that I can't guarantee it. I said I'll happily do it after work but am not likely to be able to do it in work time.
She was annoyed at this and pointed out she used to do it but I just told her that our jobs are different and her having downtime doesn't mean I have downtime.
Tuesday morning she asked me to do some laundry during the day and I told her I'd do it if I got time but if not I'd do it after work.
I was busy all day so put the laundry in the machine when I finished work. When my girlfriend got home she saw the washing machine was on and got annoyed. She asked why I hadn't done it earlier so I told her again that I didn't have the time. I asked what the difference was as it's still getting done but she just said I should have done it earlier.
Does anyone have any advice on how best to approach this if have any other perspectives on it?
tl;dr my girlfriend is getting annoyed that in waiting until after work to do chores.