my husband and i have had a very very rocky past 2 ish years. we’ve been married for 6 with 2 kids under 3 so i understand we’re in a tough season. we both have a lot of resentment and have had many fights escalate- it’s gotten to the point where i think we’re incompatible with what we want out of life (ie i want to travel, i want to socialize, i want emotional connection.)
a current big disconnect is i have no desire to have sex with him. none. im actually slightly disgusted by the things he’s said and done to me. he initiates multiple times and i’ve explained we have zero emotional connection or even resolution of our conflicts – ive asked for date nights or even small moments of connection he always has an excuse or an empty promise of when said date night will happen. i’ve explained it’s not about a single date just any type of connection. he shows no interest in me or my hobbies. i’ve made it clear i don’t need a fancy date night just let’s watch a movie or like talk about our days. he says he’s too tired because he thinks he does more with the kids (LOOOL).
i guess im feeling stuck. i dont want to beg for emotional connection. i know it sucks for me to reject his sexual advances and i get guys are wired differently but its hurtful that ive clearly communicated a simple need and and also being met with rejection.