Hello, I am writing this with insane rage inside of me. Plus I am not including details of details. A few months ago I shared my story here, and everyone was kind and helpful. But my story didn’t end there; no one respected my wishes and opinions, and they kept pushing me into more meetings. Eventually, I decided to put an end to it. Now, my second issue is that another guy asked for my hand in marriage. I said no and caused a fuss about it for weeks. Then my mom told me she arranged a meeting for me, her, his mom, and his sister. I ended up meeting his family, nice people.
Later, I received a lot of information from his mom about him, and they arranged another meeting. The day of that meeting came, and I honestly didn’t feel anything good; I felt extreme pity and guilt for him. The guy wasn’t my type. He didn’t ask me any questions. The only two questions he asked were, “Do you have the intention to get married?” and “Can I leave?” He had no communication skills. I’ve always dreamed of marrying a man with a degree, but he doesn’t have one. I know a degree isn’t everything, but I highly prefer my partner to be educated. After that meeting, which lasted barely 10 minutes because, according to his mom, he was “shy,” he and his mom kept calling and demanding more meetings. My mom got tired of it and, without asking me, arranged another one.
His mom is extremely pushy, but I also blame my mom for inviting her and her son again.
The respect I had for his mother is gone, I also don’t understand why my family keeps on doing and pushing me into arranged meetings, especially after everything that they have done for me in the last arranged marriage where they almost forced me into an engagement.
I genuinely hate arranged marriages; I’m furious. First, his mother showed no respect for my wishes regarding his rejection. Also, what’s crazy is that he and his brother want to get married on the same day in June—which is too soon and just can’t work out for me. I can’t love someone in such a short period. Everyone keeps pushing me because of my age (26). I still want to pursue my Master's degree in English.
The guy barely had anything to say or contribute. I asked him what he does for a living, and he said, “Driving.” I asked what he watches or does in his spare time, and he answered, “Once in a while.” After that, he didn’t say anything. I understand shyness can take over, but this is a lot. I kept quiet between my questions to see if he had anything to say, and he kept asking, “Oh can I leave” multiple times, which eventually pissed me off. His mom kept saying, “Oh he is shy,” but he’s 28! What should I do? How do I stop my family from arranging marriages for me? I hate it so much. Can't sleep, so much pain in my heart and I am keeping it short. I am sorry.