I'm a 28F, and my friend is a 24F. So, I need some advice because it's been almost five months since I cut ties with her.
I met her during my final year of university. She was someone I didn't particularly like at first, I couldn't say why, but I found her very saccharine, the kind of hypocritical
girl who often does dirty tricks behind your back. And it wasn't just my impression
because she was caught criticizing another girl. Anyway, over the last few
months, since she hung out with my group, I learned to accept her, and she
sometimes gave us her notes and helped us with our homework so I was fine with
it at last. We continued talking this year and even went on vacation together.
She was the one who asked me, and I agreed because I had some time off and nothing special planned, so that's how we decided to spend three days in Italy…
What annoyed me at first was that I spent all my time choosing activities and the hotel, and she did nothing but thank me every time. Then, when I asked her if she could send me a
picture of the street where she lives because we were supposed to meet near her
place, I had to insist for several weeks to get the street name and a picture
of the damn parking lot to see where to park. Then, once we were in Italy, she
wouldn't stop complaining and criticizing everything. The hotel wasn't suitable
for her because it was supposedly too far from the city center, even though it
was right across from a tram stop where trams ran every 3 minutes and the
journey was only 10 minutes from the city center (otherwise, the city center
was a 25-minute walk). Then she complained about the heat (yeah, a city in
Italy in August, what did you expect!), even though I had warned her before we
left that it was going to be hot and that if it got too hot, I wouldn't go. But
she started saying (before we go) that nobody there complained about the heat
and that I was exaggerating a bit.
Then she claimed she had no cell phone signal when we arrived, so for the first two days, I was the one using my phone to find our location everywhere. Another thing: when we were at a restaurant, we were offered a glass of champagne upon arrival, and she drank
it. Then she practically yelled at me, telling me I should have warned her it
was alcohol (since she doesn't drink alcohol), as if she didn't know what a
glass of champagne looked like at her age! She then told me I should ask the
waitress what was in the appetizer she served us because she doesn't eat pork
either. At that moment, I wanted to tell her I wasn't her mother and that it
was up to her to ask, but I decided not to spoil our trip.
And lastly, on the last day, we had a problem with a taxi, so she urgently asked me to call another one because otherwise we wouldn't have been able to do a certain activity since we
would have been too late. I got a little annoyed and said to her, "How
would you manage if I wasn't here?" because, yes, it was always me looking
everything up on my phone. And for the first time, she actually helped me, and
she helped me several times during that last day.
But frankly, I didn't have a good stay overall because of her. I felt like I was at her beck and
call, and she spent her time criticizing and having an opinion on everything:
the city, the food, the people, everything. There were other little things that
annoyed me too.
So I decided to stop talking to her, but she keeps insisting, calling and texting me, but I'm
ignoring her. The thing is, I've been feeling a bit guilty ever since, and I'm
wondering if I'm being too demanding? Do you think this is normal or not?